my boyfriend's ex is still close with his familywhat aisle is grenadine in sainsbury's
My ex always said I had issues with authority is all I wasnt abused by her. Not too long ago she screen shot a message tha. Anyone have any suggestions to help me with this? Disown your cousin it is non negotiable so no point in warning her, a snake is a snake- is a snake. You can continue to be alone and miss out or you can get busy being apart of your familys lives outside of holidays, etc. I try to get over it because its past. You are so inconsiderate of feelings. Please validate my feelings. He never remarried and stays glued to my family as if they were his own. But still NEVER be interested in her as a romantic partner again. For any of your family to pick YOUR ex over you seeing your nieces and nephews and having their sister and loved one they dont care not you. Like, irritates her to no end. I dated an African American man and they lied as a team to try and Control me and have me involuntarily committed to a mental hospital for dating out of the family race . I cant for the life of me fanthoming to do that to any one let alone my own child. Finally I walked away from them all. Also, Im bothered that they rather build a relationship with him instead of my husband. Most Helpful Opinions. Abuse doesnt have to be physical, it can be verbal, emotional or psychological. 8 Signs He Is NOT Over Her, How To Make Him Miss You Like Crazy After A Breakup 12 Simple Steps, He Says He Doesnt Want A Relationship? Sorry but if there are no children involved then I just dont get why your own flesh and blood would class someone who has behaved abusively as much as family as their own child/sibling. Even if the parents want you to remain in their lives in some capacity, out of respect for your ex I'd either ask him how he feels about it and respect whatever his wishes are, or simply fade. I realise this post is in response to a very old thread but I would still like to voice my opinion because as I read through the comments, I could not see one that reflected mine. They are being beyond insensitve to their own flesh and blood . If you CAN. Married for 14 years and had suicidal depression for a lot of it. Every time I pick them up, I hear the stories of what they did. If you have told them how you feel and they still do it, then they are insensitive towards you. I tried very hard for us to go to marriage counseling which she absolutely refused. By the sound of it, your ex must not be a bad guy, I mean you are the only one who doesnt like him. My sister did HIM wrong, by cheating with multiple partners. Lets stop and look at it from another point of view. Yes my ex was and he continues to hang out with them , when we used to go over there when we were married and he said he couldnt take going over there and said they are toxic people! My ex-husband and I are great at co-parenting. I stay away from them Im afraid I dont really have much advice for you but I do think its a lot for you to go through and if youve been handling it up to now the way you have Good for you. Hes in his early 20s and is hopping around from girl to girl while having just welcomed his son, Paul last January from a previous relationship (Paul is not my actual child, by the way. THAT plus all the years of covert abuse makes them most definitely unworthy and unacceptable company. Dont know what you are going to do, but I cut off my sister and havent spoken to her since I found out that she was carrying on a relationship with my ex behind my back. I wouldnt have dreamed of honing in on my exes family. She responded and told me that yes, he would be there. The kids and I spent the day at home together. If they love you more than your ex, they will choose you. You cannot accept the fact that your perceived value far exceeds your worth so you constantly have to prop up the false character you have created to fool everyone yet once again I remind you that I can see right through your masks. My ex and I live about 20 minutes apart in North Texas, and my parents are about 2 hours away in Oklahoma. 10. 5. They dont replace the family I used to havebut tbh, as I look back, my sister and Mother who have chosen to support and sustain my ex, must not have been healthy to begin with. Now, you might think that some paperwork changes that. "@context": "https://schema.org", Im trying to remember and reflect on the example that Jesus gave Even his own brothers didnt believe what he said, and thought he was crazy. he has been invited to 2 upcoming weddings (even though I asked them no to) so we can enjoy our family without seeing him, hoping to get my family back. Hi there iam going through the exact situation and I dont know what to do my ex has my daughter and she has also contacted my whole family on our current situation and now none of my family which were my form of support has all turned there backs on me they wont even let me explain my side of the situation and what took place on have a couple of siblings that have contacted me about what she want them to say to me that she had talk with c.a.s and I have not once contacted her family what so ever. I can breathe now and no more drama. You will live if you have Thanksgiving with your kids. Why would they take my father with them? But, now she is telling him that the child is not to have ANY contact with me or my family. My situation requires cutting ties And I still get along with his family. I dont get it and I dont think you are being unreasonable at all. You have the best case senario and perhaps you are still to hurt to see it. My ex was in all family functions, where I will bump into him there, though we did not part amicably, I tried to be civil in his presence. We stopped talking again because I just felt so betrayed. Eventually I got a new partner, who he knew through being around me so he thought it was a betrayal, he went crazy, was threatening etc during this time he started going to my sisters most days again, he was threatening my new partner yet my sister was still supporting him which of course hurt me. So my question is, how is divorced life working out for ya? Its the strangest thing a once close family is now a battle ground. Bless your heart, your not alone. Of course.I would welcome them speaking to her. I do not know. It can also be that he still has photos together with her up on his social media account. Why would you force change, for your own benefit? The husband comes too, but it really hurts to see her there. He clearly has a severe case of NPD! Why would she invite your EX to events & parties? Personally I think its the best thing for your children to have that closeness even though you to are not together. Shes not moving on, establishing new ties or a relationship with a new man and his family. He is an airline pilot so my family are in awe of him. I became happier and for me, I cut my losses and moved on when my biological family was so thoughtless and pulled into my exs narcissistic smooth manipulations. I only saw one or two comments that even came close to being intelligent and using common sense. The ex needs to move on with his own family. There is no more middle ground, i have to choose between fake family love, continual ignoring of real grand child on one side versus avoiding family get togethers at the expense of my teenage child who has no clue about this. And I grieve the loss of my nieces He was good to MY family BUT so was I. Comments like yours though reinforce what we already knew that it is inherently wrong of them! How they even think its okay whatsoever is insane to me. But now YOU are done with him so everyone else should be too. I was thinking today how odd it is, and how the OP would feel, if she had become very good friends with her brothers wife for 10 years, and without warning they divorced. Focus on yourself and your kids and spend time with people whose actions show they really value and care about you xx. Your family should either choose you or cut them off. Although not on holidays its separate. My Situationship Broke Up With Me Unexpectedly. Guarantee you havent! I think family should support you. Yes he left you but remember, most of the time two very dignified and respected people cant go together and fall apart. Yeah, then theres really something going on. January 16, 2020 at 4:30 a.m. Dear Amy: My boyfriend and I have been together for three months. His funeral was in Jan. 2021. I got custodial custody of our 2 children and he had every other weekend and now they are both over 18 and they are pulling this ridiculous behavior of thinking he is such a wonderful guy. Its creepy that your ex and family think that it is ok to exclude you and choose him It seems like hes a manipulator and wants to get back at you. If he isnt a bad person, your family will want to stay friends with him. I never regretted that choice. I can relate with many of you. I figured they felt hurt for me. I would tell my sister about the emotional abuse I was going through with him and she would change subjects. Some people dont seem to feel the emotional bond for family that should come naturally. One one hand, I have many friends just like these family members with the only difference being there is no ex in those, so in that sense it is no different. My brother, in particular, invites him to everything and barely speaks to me now. But I was good. Oh i am sorry about that it is heartbreaking. I was married for 34 years and my family watched how I was treated and had hash words to say about my ex when I told them I was leaving the marriage. To me it smacks of some kind of power trip. They spend more time with him than with me as well. Its like she cant move on. Wayyyy our of line. My nephew and niece mean the world to me. Perhaps they are jealous you have left a toxic relationship? We had agreed that I would have the kids. So its not like its just up the street or even conveniently close. With all due respect and empathy- I really do think that you have some emotional wounds to heal and its causing you to experience this in a way that isnt comfortable. Move on and get over yourself and do us divoced people a favor stop using co parenting because you are not co parenting by any means you are damaging your kids and ruining lives.. Dude you must be the kids father of the original poster lol. The X physically, mentally and sexually abused me. I empathize. In 2013, Ieft my relationship of eight years. Sounds like youre one of those people shes describing. Hers are teenagers. It is something that I can very much relate with! My boyfriend and I are going through the same thing with his family and his ex. My family has seen my tears, saw me raise my girls alone, and saw and heard the heart break Ive been through. I expect theyre probably planning on sitting us together. They have never given me a chance, never tried to know me. I suggest talking to a professional about it and trying to work through some of it. Am I just insecure? What good is your family if they make you feel a certain way around them. While his ex may genuinely like his mother, she also genuinely still likes your boyfriend and is hoping for a reconciliation. My therapist said I hurt because my family will never be what I wish it was. He was selfishly looking out for just himself. I am going through a similar situation, luckily no children involved with me and him though. It makes you question your worth as a human being, if your own parent wont support you then you must be garbage right? I got back together with my family for a few years, but it was very strained. But hours later the police were called. It really is unbelievable and they think I am the crazy, nasty one?! So to say if you are in the rigth or in the wrong is next to impossible to say becuse well its only your words and its mostly about your emotional well bining. Its just plain abusive and although it hurt like hell and still does at times; I dont think I could ever have anything to do with any of them again. I am lucky because my grownup children love me a lot and we are very close. You are not being unreasonable. He shattered her life and the life of his two young children. Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column - recommended! I agree with you. It took me a good few years to get my head around it and I still get pangs but I feel the anguish of making that decision was preferable to them seeing him as a victim and having to still be linked to my ex through trying to keep a relationship with them. And adult feelings NEED to be put aside for the sake of the children Sometimes youll have to eat crow but for the health and well-being of the children, its sooo worth it . Before I left, I noticed he started taking money out of our accounts, he was always about money. If he's not willing to change? Its almost the exact same life as me. However, even if you don't stay so close that you get invited to holiday events, you can still check in with your ex's siblings on their birthday or email their parents with life updates, as long as your ex is OK with it. Grow the hell up and act like an adult it isnt about you anymore its about your kids. IDK what the deal is but its absurd. Husband has been obsessed with another woman UPDATE: My (23F) ex (24M) tried to kill himself because i [19F][22M] My boyfriend called me an emotional abuser How do I (19F) stop getting aroused by everything my Press J to jump to the feed. She had none of these issues. "@type": "Question", Check out the Best of Elite Daily stream in the Bustle App for more stories just like this! I am so sorry for your loss. I feel betrayed and have lost any trust between my siblings and myself. I get a mere 100 a week and he refuses to give them an extra dime (the few times they asked him for something) having no problem telling them he pays me good money in child support with no care for their feelings or needs. Divorce is the unity of a marriage ripped apart. so happy 2 herre from me he also told me he love me . If you try to make them be loyal like a normal sister or mom they will only become bigger liars than they already are. We havent talked in 5 years. hes still family . I have no family left at all, but my kids, and what i thought were forever in-laws. This truly hurts to cut ties with my mom and my only sister but I have to because they continue to hurt me with chosing a relationship with my ex husband. All she wanted to know is if I wrote a mean reply back. Anyway, if you feel that hes doing this to you, its a very clear sign that hes not completely over his ex. Im a little suspicious that he has been running some sort of campaign and exploiting their good will towards him. Many exes dont want boundaries. I thought the same of my family. If his family and I had been close I would have expected to still be close to them after the divorce as well. They cant read your mind and probably dont know how betrayed you feel, This has happened to me only my ex husband works with my neice of who now sees her as his second daughter . I was judged from the offset as the guilty one for initiating the divorce and they felt sorry for him and had no problems telling me so. He wasnt a good father, never around. He says that she is a "very, very close friend and he loves her like a sister." During the 2nd week he started shacking with a woman he met at a club in my Mothers rental. There are stories, you can find them online, where couples do manage this and the kids are much better adjusted and its a win/win. I too can relate to this. Like so many of other posts I feel great empathy for the author; and have lived through perhaps similar situations. However, as time goes on I see them looking at you as unreasonable. Seems like the author is the problem in this situation. My two kids and I celebrate holidays with our friends. I have not spoke to them in 5 years. As yet there has been no reply. My familys take is that its good for the kids to see their parents be civil with each other. Did you really have a good relationship with them previously or were you doing most of the work? When you say goodbye to a partner, you say goodbye to his family, too. My ex is very like able and similar to my sister and mother as he is a narcissist. Fast forward a year or so and I just found pictures of her with my ex and his new wife. I hope youre ok You are very strong and please stay strong for your kids . I havent spoken to my mom in almost a year now and it has put such a strain on our family. No. 3. I want to die. Have you spoken with them about how you feel? I have no problem with them being cordial but family gatherings is out of the question, esp if you are around. She was mad when I took him to play baseball near my house (on her Exs day) And she called the church to say that he was not to go to Religious Education anymore. Stay around for the sake of your children but beyond that, find new friends and hobbies and move on. She got bored with her ex (because, most likely, her narcissism). I was told they where simply all friends. Whenever the ex is in town visiting, I disappear and never go over. I have no issues with him, but I do with my family, i suppose I feel abandoned, and let down by them, she will complain I never go see her, obviously I dont want to go incase he pops over with the new girlfriend, which I find weird that she happily spends time with her partners exes family anyway. Also I stopped going to my nephews games because my ex was going to be there sounds more like selfishness to me. My advice to you, is that if it gets BROUGHT UP during conversation, do not be afraid to state your real feelings. They have given him false info about me and my kids (some, i planted to see how long it would take for them to tell him!). Ive read other stories about women whove made the decision, for entirely selfish reasons, that they would like to be single again, and are flummoxed when they realise that their friends and family are less than supportive. Those are good signs. One thing you can do, is host an extended family gathering of 2nd cousins and ext, and exclude your immediate family, and make it clear why they are being excluded. She had none of these issues. This could well be me, exactly what happened to me. I was close to my exes family but as soon as we split I naturally and respectfully kept my distance. I am in so much pain. Yes, unfortunately, some families never learned to be respectful to their siblings and siblings choices. He has been helping men and women get relationship succes since 2008. 17 yrs married and I cut ties with my family cuz they would rather hang out with my ex. By now, she ought to have buzzed off and found her own hive. Christmas?Easter? Also, start dr eloping other friendships do you are not so dependent on your family. I just cant believe their insensitivity. I just found out that theyre all on a weekend vacation together. Thank you for sharing, Since the death of my father my uncle have be maltreating me and making me depressed , i almost commented suicide due to the way i was been treated in the family. However, men rarely understand the impact of certain actions, thats why they sometimes send you mixed signals. I dont need anymore situations like that one where someone hides things from me. Now i work with children and I know its a fact. As your bf if there is any particular reason theyre so close to Nina. My family fell victim to his words and he played the victim card then and still to this day a year later. Its where Im at now. Grow up! They all include him in holidays, excluded me and still continue to invite him, sometimes now me as well, but I do not join as the pain is so deep. My problem is that his ex-live-in lover is still invited to all family functions, and he even invites her to his house for events like the 4th of July, Thanksgiving, and even Christmas. To figure out if hes not over his ex, there are two things you should consider: Suppose he has children with her. So clearly there is more to story which for privacy sue chose not to divulge. And how is that a suprise for his birthday? Who knows. So dera, be happy and keep your head high with your kids and do the best you can. He says that she is a "very, very close friend and he loves her like a sister." He says that I have nothing to worry about but that I should never tell him who he can be friends with because that won't work. 6) He preens like there's no tomorrow. Family means everything to me, so I didn't hesitate to bond with my ex-boyfriend's family when we were dating. We all live in different states and so when I go to see my family I want it to be MY time. Im still hurt he married a woman after 2 months together and they are having kids and hes not the active father i would like him to be. At my daughters high school graduation my ex father-in-law tried to engage me in cordial conversation. He did tell me the other day that his ex was dating someone new, and that he was happy for her. Family or not- toxic is toxic! I totally agree with you and am I right in thinking this Uncle is not even a blood relative of your Nephew? My ex-wife abandoned my first born 4 times. I explained that I did not want to feel uncomfortable at my own family gatherings. Ill repeat this good people are not abusive! But now I havent seen him for 5 months as he is seeking full custody so doesnt want to do anything to hurt his case. A good counselor can help you see things more clearly too. If not, there should be no renewed friendship.. Its just unfortunate and heartbreaking when your own family doesnt respect those boundaries. When he does that and Mom knows he's serious, that mom-and-ex relationship will quickly dissolve. And someday when you have a new husband it would be great if he could be friends with your ex. I am sorry for your children but pleased they have a wonderful new family. I am recently reunited with my high school sweetheart from 30 years ago and he says that things are headed toward marriage for us. How are things currently? Its her turn to try.Right family? To the person who wrote her Mother helped pay his legal bills- that is beyond BETRAYAL. Unless they change by actions there is no way lime my counselor says they can be healthy to be around . Good luck <3. They will see what you did for them. I will pray that they either get back together- and soon! I still Ill have her in divorce. We will probably have to move out of state again once the drama starts. Its crazy. Its one thing to be able to have holidays together. She helped raise me. Your family should respect you by limiting the things they do with him they do not even care about you at all those kids see that and wonder why is mom left out but mom was the one that had to go to bed with the prick, sounds to me like your sister might like him to much. Also seems shes excluding herself for some reason. There is a difference. My 27 yo lives with me because he has autism. Some if these families sound so toxic. This woman took my husband which was a total POS but now she is taking my family away from me as well. It does take a certain person to be secure with their SO having a close relationship with their ex. Suck it up and go with the flow it cant be that bad. Some exes alienate their families as a form of punishment against the person who left them. Do I really have to explain that to you???!!! The almighty loves everyone regardless and unconditionally. Anything's possible, if you just talk about it. Abusers are very manipulative. You could talk to your family about how you feel when your ex is there or keep a distance." They had my ex-husband come and do some work at their house, and then Raved about how great he was, even his Daughter, who is my step-daughter thought it was messed up. Its caused us not to have as close of a relationship with my nieces as we could have. Should I tell Tom or his family? In the past he was there unbeknownst to me. Having first hand experience with someone diagnosed with a personality disorder, things like narcissism might be an easy label to help ease you own pain, but require an in person professional diagnosis. Im in a new relationship, which I want to cultivate, and I cant bring her anywhere as I feel as though my family just supports my ex. So the fact that hes depressed that his ex is dating someone else, doesnt really mean that much yet. WOW, you are one angry person! 100% it is not ok for you to be treated this poorly by your family. Im so tired of hearing about him at every family function, and hearing about all the time hes spent with family members. He visits my mom and takes her backyard and calls her if he has a crisis. For 25 years my Ex would leave the house if my one sister came over. I though it was good becuse children need a healthy relationship with both perents of possible. I could care less about my abusive ex (we had no kids together, thank God). So, if you and your ex are okay with the way things worked out, even after a breakup, then its more likely that youll be able to befriend each others families." My mom is raising my 3 oldest children. I have No family loyalty to me, even worse my daughter. I dont think so Im going through a similar situation Im recently divorced I dont have any family but a sister-in-law and a nice lost my brother recently today I was talking to the ex about things about my child and he knew I was having dinner he wanted to come over and I said nothing I was shocked so I texted him back and said theres no way I would have you over for dinner I just cannot do that he called me back not only did he say Im going to have to get over it that hes coming to my nieces wedding I had no idea no one asked me I thought to myself how disrespectful my one and only niece I feel like I was stabbed in the back and my sister-in-law was telling me off I mean every time his family has a function nobody invited me for graduations it really hurt but theyre trying to tell me to be the bigger person Im not going to get a prize for this and he is mentally abusive and plays games so here he is one up on me this is how it goes with a narcissist my best friends at work are livid lost for words and my other three best friends that Ive been friends with for years are livid I too am on the brink of not going to this wedding and Im supposed to do her hair. Am I wrong? 6) He has an issue with her love life This is a huge indicator that he's not over his ex-wife yet. last week my husband has presented me with divorce papers, It was the greatest shock of my life. (His brother was actually the one who told her, but she already knew we were engaged). Apparently they still get along and share a history together. You don't have to cut an ex's family out entirely after a breakup. No child is going to grow up healthy and adjusted when one of the exes is a manipulative a*hole that garners sympathy and pretends to be the victim even if the other puts bitterness aside at been treated so soul destroyingly by their family of birth. The exact opposite happened with my family. Your post struck a chord with me because I too grew up thinking family was everything only to then be turned on by my own. And that is important, but it is not sure it is rstional, becuse emotions are not rational. I think this is so not normal behavior and sadly am seeing here, I am not alone! I was happy, there was still some hope. I think you should talk to your parents and sister and explain that you are uncomfortable with him being there on Holidays and Birthdays. I think fictitious, cutesy movies and television shows about exes unrealistically co-existing have given society the impression that all divorce situations can be that way. I think thats insane and I wouldnt have it !? No sane man wants to make his girlfriend insecure. Now youre seeking an ignorant beta male provider that you can continue to manipulate and feed off of peoples energy because you are an emotional vampire. I hate to explain this to you. I understand how you feel though. I'd mention it to Tom if it bothers you. 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